Changes ….

I know to have a successful blog, one should be writing 2 or more times a week. I cannot even remember the last time I wrote a blog. A lot of things have been going on in my personal life and my career. I have made some big decisions and took a holiday.

During this break while I was on vacation, I had time to think about what direction I want to go with my work, and my blog. Thinking about blogging, what I want to blog, how do I want to say things, and would my blog make any difference. All thoughts that were going through my head, while I was researching.

Everyone and their dog is blogging now a day. So would my blog make a difference? Who knows but one thing I realized is that there are enough “experts” on many topics that I can refer too. So why Blog?

I decided to blog about my own personal struggles, challenges, and things that helped me.

I hope my blog will encourage and empower the readers. My wish is for it to bring hope and light that you are not alone.

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I am looking forward to reconnecting with all of you!

What change will you make today?

Happy Tuesday!

What role are you embracing?

This weekend started out a little rough with a trip to St. Paul’s Hospital emergency.  A friend of mine was not in good shape.  That is all I can say about my friend’s condition.

 With my mind racing, and my feelings changing every minute… I really did not know if I was coming and going.  While I was driving from North Delta to St. Paul’s Hospital my mind was wondering and playing with the “What if’s…”

While I was standing beside my friends bed holding their hand waiting for them to wake up, I teared up.  What if something happens to my friend?   How do I handle this?  How do I tell their parents?  For the first time, I prayed for help. 

My prayers were answered, as my friend did wake up and he is okay.

This whole morning started me thinking about how important family is to me.  I have my blood family, but I have a lot of extended family as well.

Although my family has some interesting issues, I know that if I need anyone, they would be there in a heart beat.  Maybe this is why I did not even blink when I received the call.  I just knew I needed to go.  My parents have always taught me that no matter what, you are there for friends and family. 

I am told often that I am a mother figure, and I am starting to believe it.  I love having my extended family around me.  You know who you are! 

I hope that everyone in my extended family understands that I think of you like my family.  I am always there for you no matter what. 

If you can remember one thing, remember you are in my heart and you mean a lot to me!

I love my role in my life, the natural mom.  I am kind, caring, compassionate, and I know how to give a good butt kicking!

What role have you decided to embrace?  Share with us!

 

To Risk or not To Risk…. that is up to you!

Sometimes, taking a risk can be climbing a mountain, skydiving, or driving over the speed limit.  What does taking a risk mean to you?

A friend of mine started taking pictures, and appears to be loving it!  This was risky at the beginning and now I can not wait to see his pictures on facebook.

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To me, taking a risk is stepping out of my comfort zone.  Over the last few weeks, I have decided that I want to move my business forward.  Take it to the next level, challenge myself in an area that is so dear to my heart.  But, this means I will need to step out of my zone and take a chance.

I love being a Coach and Counsellor, and I have a passion for sports.  I will admit, I dream of working with pro athletics one day.  However, one has to start somewhere and the first step was to send out an email to a team I know to see if they would hear my proposal.

Now here is the thing about taking a risk, I sent out an email last week… and did not hear from any of the coaches.  My mind can make up very interesting stories in my head.  I had thoughts of, “They did not receive the email”, “They probably think my idea is lame”, and “Who does she think she is?”.  These thought used to stop me dead in my tracks and I would give up way to easily.

Last night, while I was at a ball game, I saw the coaches whom I sent the email to.  I decided to take a chance and speak with them.  The first coach, mentioned to me that he is leaving it up to another coach.  I had a great conversation with this coach and thanked him for directing me to the decision maker.  Then, I spoke to the decision maker, to my surprise, all the things I said in my head, were not true!  The coach and I will be discussing the opportunity.  I can not tell you how happy this makes me.

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Risk taking is in our lives, and how we look at this can determine how we see ourselves.  If we want to keep ourselves small, then we do not need to take risks.  However, if we want to grow we need to take risks.

It is up to you how BIG or how small they are!

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Recharge and Reboot!

This long weekend is just what the doctor ordered!  Sunshine, Sunsets, Rain, Family, and Nature.. what more could a person ask for?

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I am curious about how you (my readers) recharge and reboot.  Do you even know what I am talking about?  I am talking about when you are feeling overworked, stressed out, a little down, or you just need to think about things in life.

I know that for myself and many of my friends, and clients, we can get swept up in life and, although, we feel like we are going with the flow… The flow we are going with is actually called a rut! 

Over the past few weeks, I have been playing around with the idea of letting one of my many projects go.  This was not an easy decision, yet I needed to make more room in my life for other adventures.  When I am about to make a tough decision in my life, I turn to nature.  I find that when I am looking out into the water, everything seems to be clearer.  My thoughts make sense, and I hear the inner voice within answer the questions I have.  I find that I am more grounded and at peace when I am able to reconnect with Mother Earth. 

Currently, I have found one of my favorite places to go to is Deas Island.  So calming!

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I love taking off my shoes and feeling the sand under my feet.  I even take time to write messages in the sand for everyone to see.

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Recharging yourself is an important part of life.  Without recharging we can become resentful, stressed, unhappy, and sad.  Without a reboot, we stay stuck! 

How many of you feel stuck?  How many of you need to recharge?  How many of you need a reboot?  If you have answered YES to even one of these questions, lets talk…  email me at lbrownrooke@gmail.com

Here is your challenge for the week… take time this week to recharge and reboot then share it with me, HERE on the blog.  I am curious to hear how things go!

Now go find a sunset and relax…

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Unsung Heroes!

Many of you who read my blog are not aware that I have a secret passion for softball.  I started out in hardball and worked up the chain to become a Level 4 National Umpire.  I love the game, and it does not matter if it is a game of softball or hardball. 

My year does not seem complete unless I am on the field for at least 3 months.  My ball season starts in October, where I work on our manuals, workshops, and programs.  You see, I am the Head Umpire of 55 – 60 umpires.  We do have a lot of fun, but it is a lot of work, and believe it or not I LOVE every minute of it!

The group of umpires I work with are amazing!  They step up for all the challenges, and the more experience umpires are mentoring the newer umpires.  That is the piece I enjoy watching.

I am not trying to honk my own horn, okay… maybe I am but I am just so proud of each and every one of them.

However, today I witnessed a number of people in our South Delta Fastpitch Minor Association who do not get or receive enough acknowledgement. Well that is my opinion.  This weekend we had a ball tournament and the weather forecast was not the greatest.  Saturday we were lucky but today (sunday) we were not.

We ended up cancelling the tournament around 10:30am.  The fields had just taken on to much water and no matter what our field crew did, it was not a battle to be won.

The field crew we have are, to me, unsung heroes.  They show up early to the ball field to work on the fields and keep working on the fields in between innings.  They move games from diamond to diamond in a blink of an eye with showing no stress.  These guys are heroes! 

With our heroes trying to win the battle today, I saw coaches, and the tournament director trying to assist but we were to late.

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I guess the point of my blog is that heroes are all around us, and sometimes we forget to thank them.  This is my way of thanking all the field crews at Brandrith and Hawthorne, all the amazing coaches that take the time to teach the kids about the game, our tournament director for all the BS you sometimes have to put up with, and our president who is always around to make sure things are going as smoothly as possible.

I know I could not ask for a better family of choice to belong too!!!

 

I don’t want to do it… well without some fun!

I have many people ask me.. “How do you do it?”  As I have said in other blogs, I am a single mom that works full time and have 2 businesses on the side.  Plus, in my spare time, I am the Head Umpire for South Delta Fastpitch Minor Association.  Image

Yes, you can say I am busy and Yes, sometimes I feel busy.  But being busy and doing what you love is different then being busy and not enjoying what you do.

In my life, I believe that I need to have passion in all that I do.  If there is no passion, then what is the point of doing it.  You might be asking yourself, are there things in my life that I do not have passion for, the answer is yes… I do not like to clean house! 

So how do you find joy or passion in something you do not like?  Great question… If you have any ideas I would love to hear from you.

Right now, most of the time I put on music and dance or sing when I am working on something that is not what I want to do.  I bring in JOY and FUN.

I guess, what I am trying to say is that we can bring fun into anything that we do even if it is something that we know we

HAVE to do!  How you put the fun or joy into this…. well that is up to you!

I will ask you again, How do you put fun into things you do not want to do?

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Stressed? Here is your challenge!

Over the past couple of weeks I have been thinking and re – examining my life and how I live.  I have noticed that being a single mother, I had to make a lot of decisions on my own, without having to worry about anything except what is in the best interest of my boys.  When I look back at all the things I have accomplished, I am very proud of myself.  However, there is a down side…

Since the boys are now teenagers, they are needing me less, which means that I am not their center anymore.  It is tough to hear my youngest, say to me… “Mom, I have a problem, but I think I know how I want to handle it.”  I want to be his Hero, but I know that he needs to be his own Hero.  In my head, I know I will always be important to my boys, but my heart is sad.

One of the best things about watching my boys grow up, is that I get to find out who am I?  What do I want to do? What is the next step?

For the last year, I was filling up my empty hole with work related projects and I was getting annoyed and frustrated.  I started getting angry at simple things that should of never bothered me.  My stress levels increased and I was sleeping a lot.  I really thought I did “self – care”, but what I need is extreme self – care!

I found a great book, “The Mayo Clinic, Guide to Stress – Free Living”, by Amit Sood.  I have started reading it and today, I am feeling more relaxed.  I do not know if this book will have all the answers, but I am willing to try.

On Facebook, a friend of mine, challenged all of her friends to post photos of what makes them Happy (#100happydays) for 100 days.  I am enjoying this challenge because a lot of times, I am forgetting about having fun.

There is many articles out there on the internet about how to be stress free, or how to lower your stress levels.  I truly believe that to lower your stress levels, we need to remember a time before we were stressed.  Think back to your childhood, what were you doing?  I know I was playing.. Maybe that is the secret?  Image

Today, I am challenging you to play more, to write your joy list, and to do something everyday that makes you feel happy!  Are you up for this challenge?

 

 

Do we do to much?

As a parent, I know I can go over board with my kids.  This could include giving them almost everything they want to nagging them to do their chores.  But as parents how do we know enough is enough?  How do we know when we are crossing the line and become annoying?  How do we trust that our children will do the best for themselves?

I do not have any answers for this!  This is the challenge for most parents.  We want so much for our children to grow up safe, without any scars from life but is this realistic?  I do not believe it is.  Our scars show the world our battles, what we have gone through, and what gifts we have received from the battles.  Yes I said gifts from the battle.

How many of you wish we had a play by play book when your child was born?  That would make our life so much easier as we will know when to hold on tight or when to let go and hope they will be okay.

Today while working with a family, I stopped and thought about my 2 teenage boys.  I wonder what scars they already have?  I wonder how could I have prevented those scars?  Then I started thinking about how many times have they fallen, and not shared their wounds with me.  I feel sad that I understand that they have fallen and not shared but on the other hand, I have to trust that they will be and are okay.

Growing up, I did not share every moment with my parents and I wonder where I would be today if I had.  Would I be a Counsellor and a Life Coach?  Would I have been volunteer Firefighter?  Would I have been an Umpire for Baseball?  I do not know.  I am grateful that I had the courage and strength for all of these challenges, that is what I know.

I do know one thing, we all have scars.  Some are physical, and some are not visible.  All I know, is that when my children come to me to share whatever it is they want to share, I will be there for them no matter.

It is not easy being a parent and somethings it is a thankless job.  Maybe we are being thanked in other ways, we just do not know it.

I would love to hear your thoughts… As a parent do you know when it is time to help?  Do you know when to back up and let your child make the choice?

 

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The step before letting go

What do you think about dreams?  Do you remember your dreams?  Or are you more like me that doesn’t remember your dreams unless there is stuff going on?

Normally, I do not remember my dreams at all, unless there is something I need to look at.  Over the last week, I have been remember at least one dream a night.  Is it time to look at my life and see what is not working, I would say yes!  Am I nervous? Yes!  Nervous because change will happen.

So what needs to change?  I am not 100% sure but what ever it is, it will assist me in moving forward to my next step.

Letting go of anything in life can be a challenge for many people, especially one that does not like change.  I work hard in all areas of my life from work to personal.  But I do listen to the signs when decisions need to be made.  It is hard though, how does one let go of something they enjoy but does not serve them anymore?  This is tricky.  I put my heart and soul into everything I do and sometimes that will get me into trouble.

There are so many articles, blogs, and quotes about letting go.  We all know that when you let go, you make room for something new however the stress before you decide to let go can be overwhelming.   I guess that is where I am at currently with a few things in my life and maybe this is why I am remembering my dreams.

Sometimes I wish there was a 12 step program for “Letting Go”!  I would go, would you?

How do you take care of yourself when you are in the Precontemplation stage of “Letting Go”?

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You are ENOUGH!

As I sit here this morning, drinking my coffee, I tend to think about the week and what I have not accomplished.  Funny how by the end of the week my “To Do” list grows larger with all the things that I “think” I need to do. 

I tend to forget about all the things I have successfully completed.  How many of you have felt that you are not “good enough” to have the things you have, or be with the one you love, or just over all do not have the confidence in yourself that you deserve what you have?

Sometimes, that person I am describing above is none other then myself.  I know for me it is really easy to feel I don’t belong, or I am not good enough, or I do not deserve this, another one for me is “I need to work harder to deserve what I have.  All of these are said in my head and sometimes I still believe them. 

Funny, that you can do all the work on yourself and still have moments that will take you back to another time.  So how do I snap out of it…

I have tried a number of ideas that have helped but it is different every time.  Here is a list of ways that have helped me:

1. create a success list daily.  This is like a gratitude list.  I journal 5 things that I did successfully in my journal.  This helps me to to see the little things that were successes that sometimes I forget about.

2. talk to someone. When things become really bad, I talk to someone and have them assist me to un twist my thinking. 

3. Positive affirmations. I find using positive affirmation assist me in tricking my mind in believing that what I am doing is enough and I am enough.  It is hard at first because you my not believe what you are saying but give it time!

4. Finding evidence that you are good enough. Finding the evidence is all about taking notice of your day and looking for the things that you are doing well.  Listen to what people are telling you.  They are probably telling you that you are doing well.  Write what they say down and revisit that when you need to.

These are just a few ways to assist myself to pull out of the hole of not feeling like I deserve things.  I hope you find them helpful.

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